Tell me Something Tuesday

Tell me something if people are so with the idea of commitment why is it so hard to commit. It’s like everywhere I go someone is together but they not together know what I mean? It’s like people get together catch all these feeling and get into something I like to call a situationship.

And in these “situationships” it’s like either one or both parties is in the current relationship but they have more issue that keep them together other than just letting go of something destructive.  Tell me something else why is the destructive nature of the relationship used for people to stay together? It’s like people would rather say they have someone and be unhappy than let go and be alone and be happy. 

It’s like people have the Stevie J and Joseline Hernandez syndrome now I don’t watch Love and Hip Hop and I really have no idea what goes on in that show. But from what I understand is Stevie J is the destructive force in that relationship and Joseline will do anything to keep it going. The key is to love yourself and be a maker not a taker, what I mean by that is.

Make your own happiness don’t take it from someone else, make your own choices it don’t take the time to blame others, and Make the decision to be your own man or woman and not let someone else define your happiness. I think in doing this everyone could fine the happiness within and not have to look outward for those “situationships”.

Picture of the Day

This picture of the famous metaphor cloak and dagger reminds me of the duality of what I have been discussing so far in this blog. The dagger represents to me protection of the person that means the most to you.

 

The dagger also can have a double meaning in that we can often times hurt the people that we care for the most. Well maybe I say the dagger has a triple meaning as in it can be double edged.

 

We sometimes end up stabbing ourselves in the pursuit of happiness with the very dagger that we want to protect others with and from.

 

The cloak on the other hand has many meanings different people will view the cloak and different ways. One way I see it is secrecy often times we hide ourselves from ourselves meaning that people don't like to face their own truths.

 

This make it harder to connect with someone that you care for because if can't love yourself how can you muster the courage to love others. Love is a game of give and take and people behind these cloaks often times can't open up enough to give or take. 

 

By all means the cloak doesn't have to mean shrouded in mystery we taking about matters of relationships it could also mean a new uniform. A mantle in a sense that one takes up for the person that they care about the most.

 

This mantle can be used to represent a new identity for one self.  I don't know these are just thoughts my thoughts I would like to view  your thoughts on the matter..........

Loyal to the end..

 

 

 

 

 (Metal Gear Solid 3: The Boss second intro) "I'm loyal to the end,  whats it gonna be loyalty to me or loyalty your mission your duty to your unit or your personal feelings."

The discussion about loyalty got me thinking rather it be relationships, money or whatever and this is something I never fully understood. How can you cheat on someone and still love them, a good friend of mine told me that "just because you cheat on her doesn't mean you don't love her." I thought this was crap the guilty mind does try to rationalize what it does so that the person can feel better about what they are doing.
 
 Another girl said that this was possible well not for her but she said it was possible that people usually give a person one chance. Well everything starts at zero not one when you think about it if you turn zero into one, one turns into ten and ten turns into one hundred to prevent the problem you have to keep it at zero. And if zero ever turns into one that person has to understand that that's what they will be one the only one there hearing their own echo.

    And I know some of you don't agree but y'all mostly probably been cheated on and let zero become one or are cheating guilty mind protects itself like I said. So I kind of answered my own question today about can you love someone even though they cheat and the answer is HELL NO and this is why CHOICE.

There is always a choice no matter what if five of the baddest females walked in my room right now naked I mean no matter how excited I am I can still dictate what happens next no one can make me do anything that I don't wanna do.

So people choose to cheat no matter how you cut it and the love is not there because if you choose to do something that hurts the one you really love then I guess you never loved them in the first place right? There is no such thing as it just happened or I made a mistake, mistake is defined as a misunderstanding and its hard to misunderstand sex I mean real hard.

And I know the cheaters and the poor souls who allowed zero to turn into one are gonna say "why you hating let sleeping dogs lie." Don't "mistake" me I don't care about people cheating whatever it happens I know people who do, but it blows my mind for people to say that they love the person when it is just not true. You can't live a lie if your not loyal to the end then you don't love that person.

Gen Robert D Talton
"If I was God the place in hell for disloyal people would be a empty room with one mirror so they could forever tell themselves how right they are."

What is Love really?!?!?

1. Love is the emotion of strong affection and personal attachment
2. Emotion is the complex psychophysiological experience of an individuals state of mind as interacting with biochemical (internal) and environmental (external) influences. In humans, emotion fundamentally involves "physiological arousal, expressive behaviors, and conscious experience".[1] Emotion is associated with mood, temperament, personality and disposition, and motivation.
3. Affection is a "disposition or rare state of mind or body

"outside of our parents, everything is different, no two people have had the same experience,  no two people have the same definition of love, but if they know what each other's definition of love is, well, that is where they can either begin to grow, or begin to let go."(Gino)



Lets break down love scientifically shall we love is defined as an emotion, we all know human emotions can change like the wind they do all the time part two is Affection well that's just a disposition towards a person now lets remember we are breaking this down scientifically. So the two key components of love is based on two very unstable things it can be almost equated to letting anti-matter touch matter...

\Well almost... Gino Forizs (who should write a book) brought up some interesting points if you read them two peoples definition of love are not the same mine for example mine is loyalty through and through. Ever since I seen that movie unfaithful I always questioned a persons love for another when they have the mala in se(evil in itself) to cheat on someone that they made a promise to or even told that they loved I thought like this since I was 13.

From what I seen in recent years I still question fellow soldiers, friends, and anyone who would commit harm to something they say they "love" well do they really. Then I encountered a woman(Gino) I wish I can say I love her for this but lets face it after this note how can we ever use this word love...She said love is the word people use when can't express the feeling that they are feeling.
 
And if love is an emotion and humans can experience hundreds of emotions then how can an individual lock what they are feeling on to love when it could be a number of things they are experience. And I know what y'all are saying what about your parents(see Attachment theory google it). Whatever a persons definition of love is remember two people don't have the same definition of love we have to all agree with so many definitions of love how do you truly know what is real.

We all know what makes us angry and can identify anger and what makes us sad and identify sadness but love has so many definitions it can't be identified . Me for example I don't believe anyone who told me they were in love are really in love but then again I judge actions. And from what I seen way to much gray/black area for me to say they love each other...

I'll take that back Ray Thomas and Patricia K do love each other I will say that they the exception not the rule. Now lets get down to bass tactics this love thing  is just a feeling most people want in there life nowadays its better to say that you have somebody that loves you just not to have to be alone and maybe face yourself...

Some people just want they cake and eat it too they mean love as in s/he takes my crap and I can always comeback to that individual. This thing we call love is something to me that humans can't understand, I don't want to be alone doesn't mean I love neither does she's having my child plan and simple. Probably why divorce rates are so high two people misunderstanding what love they mean when they say I love....I'll leave y'all with this last quote from (Gino)...

"Well I'm not stuck in a fantastical wonderland of wedding dresses and hugs and kisses. I prefer to live =) there for I think outside of the box."(Gino Forizs)

When we separate the fantastical from reality maybe we can define love...maybe.

What do you all think??